Posted on: February 5, 2009
House Party
An elegant engagement party doesn’t need an extreme setting. It can take place right at home
By Bev Bennett
CTW Features
Instead of a swank restaurant or rental venue, encourage an intimate setting for an engagement party.
Your best friend's condo or your cousin's home can provide a comfortable background as you share your wonderful news.
Personalized, at-home and theme-based engagement parties are in favor now for a variety of reasons, according to wedding planners.
The hostess, who may be the bride's mother or the prospective maid of honor, gets to show off her home, guests enjoy a familiar setting and the event can be a lot less expensive than one held elsewhere.
"People spent a lot of money on their homes. Now's the time to show it off," says Jacqueline Lawrence, décor director for Duvall Catering & Event Design in Charleston.
Excess, however, is out.
Ideally, an at-home engagement party is limited to fewer than 50 people and offers an opportunity for everyone to get to know each other well before the wedding, according to Lawrence.
The menu and set-up can encourage mingling. Food can be casual, inexpensive and distinctive, according to Katie Martin, CEO of Elegance & Simplicity in Washington, D.C.
She suggests serving regional specialties such as Maryland crab, Texas barbecue or Louisiana gumbo.
The couple's history together or anticipated honeymoon destination also may inspire the food and beverages.
As an example, one couple who got engaged in Mexico will be toasted at a late-night margarita and dessert party, mostly for the couple's friends. The drinks will be served in glasses that are the same colors the bride is planning for her wedding. Guests will be given the glasses as souvenirs, according to Martin.
The décor can be just as informal, inexpensive and inviting.
Save money on floral arrangements by using flowers and greenery from your own garden.
"This is an easy and inexpensive way to add a bit of life to the sideboard," says Lawrence.
As an alternative to homegrown flowers, pick up an assortment of small potted plants or little flower vases, each holding a single flower.
"You can give the vases as favors to the guests. It's less cleanup for you," Lawrence says.
Turn the couple's history together into a display that invites guests to reminisce.
"You can set up a table with souvenirs of the couple's budding relationship or photos of the twosome," says Martin.
Scour the closets or shop vintage stores for serving pieces. Some shops will allow you to rent pieces so you're not stuck with them, according to Lawrence.
Don't worry about seating, however. Rather than rent more chairs, put away the ones you already have.
"This is a party meant for mixing and mingling. Removing chairs not only promotes this; it allows the dining table to be used for a buffet with easy access," says Lawrence.
Bev Bennett, a veteran food writer and editor, is the author of "Dinner for Two: A Cookbook for Couples" and "30-Minute Meals for Dummies"