Posted on: November 16, 2005
We Threw My Dream $25,000 Wedding for $10,000
By Mary E. Connors
CTW Features
Image courtesy Keith Moulding
The couple: Morgan Boyd, 36, and Ed Beaudry, 40
The day: Sept. 3, 2005
The place: Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada. The reception took place at the landmark Hotel Saskatchewan
In attendance: 142 family members and friends
Goal: We wanted to make our wedding elegant and accessible, and entirely our own. It was about real life and who we really are, urban and straightforward. More than anything, we wanted it to be fun.
The invitation: We’re both movie buffs, so we decided to make the invitations look like an invitation to a big movie premiere. Inspired by “The Lord of the Rings,” we presented “The Exchange of the Rings.” The cover illustration showcased the wedding party in their roles as warriors, Elven princesses, and so on. Inside, we had a brief synopsis on the “film,” reviews by Rolling Stone (“Five stars!”) and Ebert and Roper (“Two thumbs up!”) plus a cast and crew listing at the bottom. It was an invitation unlike any we’d ever seen. From design to printing, we did the invites ourselves for a fraction of what a commercial printer would have charged.
Photos: We devoted a full day to photography two weeks before the wedding. It gave us the opportunity to try on our wedding clothes, shoes and makeup and work with the photographer. Our locations were a downtown loft, a hallway in a mall, and a battered bench in a grotty back lane. It was very urban and very real. A traditional wedding photo wasn’t for us.
Cost saving idea #1: We worked with a professional magazine photographer who’d never shot a wedding before. We covered the cost of developing. Ed designed the photographer’s Web site in exchange for his time. We didn’t want our photos to look like any one else’s in the universe.
How they met: Online through Yahoo Canada Personals. I opened an account and I went shopping. I knew exactly what I was looking for. I searched within 1500 kilometers of Winnipeg, where I lived at the time. I got two hits that matched my preferences. One had a photo and that was Ed. We first exchanged emails in July 2002. I’ve never been so taken with anyone. He is gorgeous, and he is as good inside as he is out.
What didn’t happen: A receiving line. Our mothers were having too much fun socializing. By the time they were ready to take their places, dinner was minutes away. Instead, Ed and I stopped by each table to greet our guests.
Bridesmaid management: The secret to surviving your wedding is to learn the difference between what you should control and what you shouldn’t. Allow for difference. Let people do their own thing. I told the bridesmaids I didn’t care what they wore as long as it was black and floor length. I left the look up to them. They could have come in fuzzy track suits. I didn’t know, and I didn’t care. You have to learn and have faith.
Cost saving idea #2: Bridesmaids have limited budgets, too. Instead of buying a formal from a salon, I told them I’d be just as happy if they bought patterns and fabric and had dresses made. Having faith paid off - they chose styles that suited them and the end result was gorgeous, elegant and totally unique.
The big oops: The minister dropped the wedding ring right before the big moment. We all dove for it and almost cracked our heads. The guests in the church roared. Ed picked up the ring, blew on it and polished it before putting it on my finger, and the crowd roared again.
Cost saving idea #3: We rented an SUV that held the entire wedding party, all 8 of us, instead of a limo.
Cost saving tip #4: We didn’t decorate the church. Why? It’s already a holy place. Décor can be a bankrupting element of any wedding. I left a trusted friend in charge of decorating the ballroom. Using salal (lemon leaf), mini-orchids, tea-light candles, mirrors tiles and a few yards of printed organza, she transformed the room into a lush, forest wonderful.
The honeymoon: New York City for a week. We bought t-shirts for everyone, and spent our days at the museums.
What would she change: Nothing. There was so much laughter. It was perfect. Perfect, perfect, perfect. I would like every bride to have the wedding I had.